RESPECT THE BEHAVIOURS. NOT ANYTHING ELSE

Yesterday, I heard a show on sexual harassment on FM and I learned a new but very useful line over there.

There was a child who actually asked from the consultant, should we respect our elders??

He said very amazingly, NO. kid said, thank you. You know what was the importance of this line for that kid. Actually she was undergoing sexual harassment form one of her elder relative. She knew something was wrong, but she also was taught from the very beginning like all of us that RESPECT YOUR ELDERS. That’s why she never actually opened her mouth against all this. 

Whomsoever she would ask, SHOULD WE RESPECT OUR ELDERS??       They would say, yes, and she remained mum for God knows how much time??

When she consulted with this gentleman and he said NO, YOU SHOULD RESPECT THE BEHAVIOUR, NOT THE ELDERS. This thing brought a new ray of hope in her life. She objected to all this and I hope, she would be out of this situation now although those dirty feelings and memories will continue for some more years.

It, s very true, sometimes we say something right and good but then we get the reply, shut up, do not talk like this to me or don’t dare to advice me , I am your elder. Why should we respect our elder, and they are behaving like this or just making hot their own iron. I will respect one person younger than me, who is actually having good principles of life and who is having a good behavior, rather than a person who is elder than me but who is actually behaving like this. To some extent, I have also gone through this thing in my childhood, although Thank God, that bastard didn’t get so much chance to have his way. Thanks to my mumma , who never left me alone and in fact has warned me against all these rubbish , when I was only 6 years,( don’t remember actually 5,6,&7)

These kind of memories haunt you, even after so many years I have heard that these things have an impact in your adult days, I never thought it will have an impact on me, but later on I realized that it is actually. I was in a series of relationships; I could not live without a guy with me. I dreaded aloneness. Even though, there were guys who were not at all good but I stayed with  those bastards in those relationships, because I did not want to be alone at all. And the funny thing was that I wanted them to be serious for me, but I never actually wanted me to get serious for them, and I never had been. Thank God, now I have overcome this, and now I am in a serious relationship with an amazing guy. ;)

I want to tell you one more thing, although this thing does not actually have any contact with all this, but let me narrate this. When I was in my college then Maluana Azad Medical Rape case has happened, in which a girl was raped on Khooni Darwaza I think. One of my friend said at that time , US BECHARI KI TO ZINDAGI KHARAB HO GAYI, AB USSE TO KOI SHADI KARNE SE RAHA’

  I said , why , that girl is not culprit, she is a victim, why her privileges should be snatched from her,  she said, no, wo ladki ab kharab ho chuki hai,

  I had a great deal of arguments with her over this issue but she did not gave up. And it  is true also I think, That’s, why sexual harassment or rape cases are not reported as much as it actually happen. One of the caller in yesterday’s show, about which was talking about , called up and told that her neighbor was taking advantage of her, in the absence of her parents as her both parent were working  and also her younger brother is mentally disturbed so this way her parents had not time to look after her. Her bastard neighbor continued with this heinous act continuously for years I think and one day by luck, her mother got to know about it.  You may be expecting her neighbor must have got punishment, but this never happened. Unexpectedly, her mother beat her to death. Neither she, nor I understood why? She told her not to disclose this to anyone, anyone again in her life. Maybe, she was concerned about her future but still, ultimately victim got the punishment not the culprit. Alas

We are told to respect our teachers, but you must have heard about the recent news, in which a girl was raped continuously by her teacher in an NTT hostel I think, I forgot the location. My mother has told me as she keeps making me aware about all these acts and happenings going around. Thanks mumma!!

Although this was a girl hostel or school but there was not a single woman teacher. And these teachers used to play lotteries with all the girls, names that which one will have fun with which girl today. Think about the bloody bastards. M sorry m using these abuses but I can not hold myself. Sorry.

Again the same thing emerges, that we should respect the behaviors, not the designations or position holding by the persons. We undergo sexual harassment in our offices because of our boss’s position. We don’t raise our voice, as this is not only going to snatch our job but also our reputation in office. Nobody raise finger over the male boss but only on female employee.

So , like this, do not respect the authority also, but the behavior displayed by this authoritative figure.

RESPECT THE BEHAVIOUR, NOT ANYTHING ELSE.