IS IT SEXUAL HARRASMENT

Hi!!!

Today I am going to talk about a very taboo subject, sexual harassment. Being a HR person, I have heard a lot about sexual harassment but I never realized, how would be feeling actually being in this .Actually, am in a kind of dilemma that is it really sexual harassment or not???  TO KAHANI KUCH AISI HAI KI

I am working right now in travel industry. And normally, like small companies, I have also a MD who is like king of jungle. I was feeling already very tensed initially,  even  after being for almost 15 days in the organization that I am stuck. Prior to this , I was working with an IT company and as you all may be aware that IT atmosphere is totally fundoo and free and professional, no personal wishes of MD is actually holding too much weight. But “jahan raja sirf ek hi aadmi ho to wo behcara kaya karein”

Initially I was feeling all this problems. Gradually things started to be smooth. MD who usually used to remain angry with all of employees, always whining and barking, now actually got smooth with me, in fact extra soft with me. He usually used to call me in his cabin and on the pretext of some work or other used to make me sit for at least half an hour, ordering tea for me, asking for personal questions and all….

Actually my would be sister in law is also working in the same company so he used to instigate me against her (and her against me, m deadly sure) like ladies. Now he is very influential person, if he talks soft with somebody then he feels lucky or at least I did. Then one fine day , while I was going home, he called me inside his cabin and asked about my number just very casually. I gave him. Next day, he asked me have u got my msg.

I = No,

MD= but I  have sent u one msg when I was watching my favourite program and I wanted you to watch that.

I= ok sir, please do it again.

I was feeling odd , Md is messaging me just to tell about a program. Anyways, then he has instructed me to send him  a message to confirm this is the  correct number , I has given to him.

I just sent a very casual msg. unexpectedly, I got a reply of the same. Then he started sending me msg. and now calling me also, just casually, then one day he said, “ Hey, Nicky, I got a business deal. You are lucky for me” I felt very good. He invited me for treat. And me , EKDUM GADHI HU MAIN, I accepted. He brought one of his fine car and that day no driver with him. Very casually he said make sure nobody see me when you are coming with me. So just like thieves, I went and he went to a restaurant with me I was not feeling at all, that my MD is sitting with me. I liked it thinking MD is my friend. But things took a new turn. He stated telling me about all his ex girlfriends, his current girlfriends (He is married with 2 girls almost similar to my age, and he is 46 years) all the stuff I did not want to know. He tried to know about my bfs etc. but I did not tell as I was not having anybody till then.  So our friendship started and went on and on. But now he starting treating my possessively. One day he made a great fuss, because he has seen me with one of my friend eating and going to my home. Whatever I do, it is none of his business, my personal life is totally out of view of my professional life. But  my colleagues , each and every body is just so idiot (can I say bastard) that they have problem with each and every girl. Every girl is seeing with bad eyes and is labeled as bad character. 

So he got so possessive, that he actually sent me a good burning message saying that “I am a leo , a lion  I don’t, want my friends to be shared with anybody else( like m a bloody his keep , whom he has bought for himself only, how can he even talk like this, I am not his bloody property) he just sent me such rubbish messages and even ask one of my colleague to make me understand that I should not talk to boys , and I should fully concentrate on my career only. I was so afraid then actually I understood what is going on in his mind, and I became cautious. I just made excused whenever he used to ask me to go with him. It made him more furious. Now he also understood somewhat that what is going on in my mind, beside , I liked one of my colleague and we are very much friendly with each other. He understood that i may leave him anytime.

It is so shit yar, that I considered him totally as a friend only, I never hence accepted his gifts also , but he made me accept his 2-3 gifts, which are now causing problem in my home, as my mom keeps asking about that, I don’t why this happens. Na chahte hue bhi aisi problems aa hi jati hai ladkiyon ke sath.

He even does not understand that there is a huge gap between me and him , he is like my father. My life is totally stuck buddies. Now when he has actually understood that am not interested in him. So he does not talk nicely me, keeps looking for smallest to smallest mistakes in my work, does not even say me to sit when I have any work with him. I stand for normally half an hour. It really pinches, but I do not know what to do, I can not say yes to him. Though he never actually said  about sexually favour, but these days he even started sending my Non veg messages and started telling non veg talks also.  

I don’t know , what to do, how to save my job or how to save my self respect. Because saving both of them does not seem possible now. O GOD! HELP ME,

Finding a good HR job is also not so easy now.

Viase my question from you is that is it also a sexual harassment ?????????